We're glad to have you with us and thanks for your post.
A couple of things to consider. First, a person can have HPV for weeks, months, or even years before a diagnosis is made. Genital HPV is an STI, transmitted from skin to skin contact (genital to genital or genital to anal) but there are some unexplained cases and nonsexual transmission, while probably uncommon, cannot be ruled out. Also, keep in mind that genital contact that doesn't involve penetrative intercourse can transmit HPV.
Most sexually active people contract HPV at some point in their lives (probably up to 80% or so), but the vast majority never know it and won't have visible signs, or symptoms like warts can be very small and hard to see even with a medical exam. If you've yet to do so talk about this with your health care provider and make sure you're having regular Pap tests (even though the HPV types that cause genital warts aren't usually the ones associated with cervical diseases that Paps detect).
We understand that the emotional impact of HPV can be greater than the physical discomfort the virus may cause. Experiencing feelings of fear, guilt, and confusion are natural; however, these feelings can be managed and overcome. You have taken an important step by educating yourself. Please keep in mind that we speak to couples each day for whom HPV has become nothing more than a minor inconvenience in their relationship.
I hope this helps and post again if anything else comes up.
All the best,