I think it's important to choose a doctor that you feel comfortable with. Not all healthcare providers have very good bedside manners so there is absolutely nothing wrong with finding somebody that is going to help you through this situation physically as well as emotionally.
It is possible to carry HPV and not know it. Also, a case of HPV doesn't necessarily mean that your partner or spouse has cheated so try and keep that in mind when you are doing your research.
In my most unprofessional opinion (I am not a healthcare provider) I don't think having a baby OR being pregnant would cause you to have HPV. Is that what you were trying to ask?
Hang in there and keep us posted, ok?