Hi EveryoneÃ¢â‚¬Â¦.IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m writing a research paper for my WomenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s Health Issues class about HPV. The paper involves a political or community outreach component, and IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve decided to compile stories (possibly in zine format, and hopefully distributed to clinics or sex education organizations) about advice on how to disclose the fact of having an STI to a potential sex partner. Personally, I have found this incredibly stressful, and have yet to devise a dignified, painless way to go about it.
So, IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m seeking stories. These are things I want to address:
*Successful experiences, or discussions that didnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t go so well, or maybe proved to be learning experiences.
*Has a potential partner ever said no to sex because of your disclosure, or revealed that he/she has one too?
*Various reactions from partners and how you dealt with them
*Advice on when in the relationship to have the conversation. What if itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s a one-night stand? Is it always necessary to tell the other person, and if not, what are the deciding factors?
*How to alleviate potential fears that your partner might have. What about questions that donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t really have answers (or donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t have good ones, such as Ã¢â‚¬Å“Will a condom protect me from HPV?Ã¢â‚¬Â)?
*The issue of trust
Basically, IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m thinking of this compilation as a resource for someone who is unsure about how to be sexually active with an STI while being concerned for their partnerÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s well-being, as well as their own feelings. IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m hoping to have enough stories within two weeks. They will all, of course, be totally anonymous.
Thanks for your help!