I have been dating my current gf for about 3 months now. Before we had sex for the first time I went to get checked for STDs. Everything came up negative, however i did notic 2 little bumps on the base of my penis. I asked my doctor and he just shrugged it off and said it was just an irration because i recently shaved. So we started to have intercourse, still used a condom even though i tested negative for everything. I really felt like this doctor did not give me the time of day when i asked him about the bumps, so i scheduled an appt with a dermatalogist. So i went yesterday to the derm. and it turns out that these bumps are HPV.He chose to freeze them off and then start Aldara in a week and he seems confident that this will help stop a reoccurence. Anyways, it turns out that I do have HPV and now I have to tell my new gf that I have it and there is a chance she has it as well. I really like this girl alot and I am just real nervous and confused about how to approach it. I really tried to take the right steps to prevents this worst case scenario but bc of a lazy doctor now she might have it and prob will end up hating me. I am only the 3rd person she has ever been with. I obv am going to tell her, but any ideas on how I should go about it?

Hi confused,

Consider some of these talking points if you decide to discuss this with your partner:

Almost all sexually active people have HPV, as many as 75-80%. Unlike other conditions, HPV is a normal part of having sex.

There are rarely any health issues, especially with the low-risk HPV types that cause warts. These are NOT the types linked with cervical cancer.

Most people have HPV, but the vast majority never see or feel anything.

There's no specific tests recommended for partners of someone diagnosed with genital warts. She should have her regular Pap tests, but she should be doing that anyway.

The body usually clears an HPV infection in 6-24 months.

If she has any specific questions, please post them here.

Best to you,
Fredo

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