Some thoughts here: your concern for others is admirable. HPV is so common, and so pervasive around the world, that it's now become essentially a "marker" for sexual activity. In other words if you have sex, you get HPV. Not everyone contracts the virus but at least 75% in the U.S. do, and many have more than one infection over their lifetimes. Fortunately, most cases are harmless and self-resolve, but I understand your anxiety.
Here's an HPV News article that might be of interest:Disclosing Genital Warts to PartnersBritish study indicates partners more accepting than expected
Learning that a sexual partner has been diagnosed with genital warts may not prompt the negative reaction many fear, according to a British study published in Sexually Transmitted Infections.
To better understand what factors are important in disclosing a genital warts diagnosis to a partner, Dr. Louise Scrivener, with the Department of Psychology at the University of London, and colleagues recruited 54 patients with a history of genital warts who have had a sexual relationship since their diagnosis. The participants, all of whom were patients at a London medical clinic, completed questionnaires that assessed anxiety, perceptions of stigma around STIs, and relationship variables. 57% of participants identified as white, 30% as black and 13% as Asian.
67% of the subjects reported having informed their partner of the diagnosis, with the main reasons for dong so including honesty, the partner having a right to know, desire to prevent transmission, and stress related to not disclosing. Disclosers had lower overall anxiety levels and were more likely to describe their relationships as long-term and close.
Non-disclosers, who most often cited embarrassment and fear of a negative reaction as prime reasons for not telling a partner, were more likely to express regret over their decision than were disclosers. Such fears may have been unfounded, though, as those who disclosed said the partnerÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s response was much better than expected.
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L Scrivener et al. Disclosure of anogenital wars to sexual partners. Sexually Transmitted Infections. 2008; 84(3): 179-182.