First off calm down. I know that is easier said than done but you are amongst friends who are dealing with HPV and we can help
HPV is a common virus and can be spread from skin to skin contact. Even if you use condoms it is not guaranteed that you won't be infected with the virus.Also HPV can lay dormant in the body for weeks, months and in some cases years before anything shows up whether visible or in a pap smear result so it's hard to tell exactly when the infection took place. Also one can have a normal pap smear but still have genital warts. Some warts can't be seen with the visible eye. True the conversation is hard especially with someone you truly care about. If you give your partner facts she may be more understanding than you think.
If you and your partner would like more information, she can refer to this website and :www.thehpvtest.comwww.maketheconnection.org
Promiscuity has nothing to do with HPV. All it takes is one partner and one time. She may have passed it to you with no symptoms or you may have had it for some time and it's now surfacing. The best thing to do is to check with your doctor and don't be afraid or embarrased to let your doc know what's going one. I'm sure they have seen things we couldn't believe. Also if it is warts, there are treatment options available. There is no cure but HPV can be managed
If you need more info just post your note. We are all here to help, give personal experiences and to answer any questions you may have. Fredo (the moderator ) is the best with much information to share.
You can still have an active sex life with HPV, children and the whole nine yards.
Good luck and I'm cheering for you. Also if your fiancee has questions, just post them and maybe we can help