Hi I just found out this morning that i have chlamydia. I have been seeing the same person for 2 years now and I was having symptoms and went to the doctor and I got the call earlier today so now i have no idea how to confront him. I never cheated and i was tested 3 months after my last boyfriend before him so I know he gave it to me thank god I am faithful but how do i confront him I am so angry and hurt and betrayed. Now, I'm freaking out not so much about the chlamydia becuase that is treatable but I am so scared that if he cheated on me and gave me that if i could be HIV positive that freaks me out more than anything. So how do i tell him he gave me an sti anyone else who's been through this please help...thanks for reading this

crying my eyes out!
cheated on

When I was 19, and in a steady, long-term relationship, I found out I had chlamydia. My boyfriend at the time was incredibly hurtful to me after I told him. I feel the best way this could have been avoided is if I had investigated the STI more before approaching him. It is important for you to arm yourself with information so that when you do confront him, you are well prepared. I can't remember all the facts on chlamydia, but either of you may have carried it without knowing so. I do remember that it is considered the "silent epidemic" for a reason-it usually comes with no symptoms. He may not have cheated on you, which is something else you may want to consider before bringing it up. I realize this is a month and a half late, but I hope this helps whomever might stumble upon this.

Meatflower is correct. Your partner could have had this before he was with you.

Also, I know how easy it is to get stressed and decide one STD is related to another. But please consider that just because he may have had chlamydia doesn't mean he had HIV.

Given that, it's a good idea to ask your doctor for a complete STD screening to rule out anything that could be causing you undue stress.

Dharma

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Dear Cheated On,

The advice to get informed, knowledge is power is very good advice. Give yourself time to get over the shock & hurt. Try approaching him with information about this STI. With all your strength try not to blame but inform your BF that your being treated for it. That he needs to seek medical testing for it. Tell him that he's been your only partner, your asking him wheither he's slipped up and been with someone else. Because you need to know wheither to get additional testing and wheither the two of you can still trust eachother? If you approach the discussion without blaming ( I know it's asking alot of u) but to educate and share he might be more forthcoming. I hope time will give you perspective and continue to be proactive with your health. Condoms might be your best friend to prevent further STI's from entering your life. Good luck


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