I have had herpes for almost 20 years. Unfortunatly, I didn't figure it out until after I was married. I am blessed to have really mild OBs, I dismissed lesions as pimples, because they're not painful and OBs are infrequent (1-2 times/year). My husband was very understanding and to date he has never had an OB, (as far as we know) and we've been married for more than 15 years. I am a mother of 2 teenage daughters and I have always been terrified since the day they were born that I have somehow given this to them inadvertently. I have read how some people are infected but asymptomatic or have mild symptoms like myself...if this is true, how can I be sure that I have not given this to my husband and daughters?
Questions for you:
-Is it possible that my husband and I have contracted this on our hands (while we were both clueless that I had it) and then given it to our daughters during diaper changes? We both do not have a memory of having blisters on our hands but sometimes it's mild or asymptomatic, right?
-Another question that I could not find an answer to is related to our beloved family dog. This sounds gross but for some reason he likes to get into my bathroom garbage and chew up used pantiliners, yuk, i know!! I realize my dog can not contract human herpes but how long would the virus live in/on his mouth after he's been dumpster diving...could he infect my kids by licking them after this disgusting activity?
-I know soap kills the virus but does the dryer on high heat kill the herpes virus too? I do use soap but I have always found reassureance that our clothes have been baking in the dryer for 40 plus minutes. My girls are now at the age where our underwear gets mixed up sometimes...they have accidentally worn my clean underwear at times and this has caused great anxiety for me too.
-Do you recommend that my husband and/or daughters be tested? There have been 2 times in the past that I brought my daughters in to their pediatrician and specifically asked if a lesion could be herpes (one on my daughter's buttock, and a blister under my daughter's nose), both times they said no, it was not herpes. Both times the lesions disappeared before I could get in to a dermatologistat to confirm this and there was no blood test available at that time. I would love to hear your feedback on this...thanks
Again, thank you for answering these questions and those of others like me. I've gotten so much helpful information from previous posts. Herpes has been the cause of years of anxiety since my daughters were born.