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 Post subject: DISCUSTED AND DEPRESSED
PostPosted: Sat May 26, 2007 2:38 am 

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iam a 25yr old male and thinks hes the only male on this site? i need to talk to someone but have no one to confide in so here it goes. I think i contracted herpes from this girl i had a one night thing well two night thing anyways i the 2nd day after we did i i got these red sores which i looked up on line and now i think i got herpes iam making an appt with my family doctor but am afraid of what what might be said or thought of i have never had a std and can't believe now that i may have one. I have not talked to this girl but she has been texting me and wanting to still hang out how do i tell this girl which seemed nice.. that she gave me herpes im so stressed and discusted. Will i ever be able to have unprotected sex with my partner or does this mean that i have to use a condom for the rest of my life? As of late im turning to drugs and alcohol as my own anti depressent. please, can someone out there please provide some insite or just something thanks


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PostPosted: Sat May 26, 2007 7:59 am 

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First things first - how long have you had symptoms? The longer you wait the less likely you are to get an accurate diagnosis if indeed this is herpes going on. Also delaying treatments means the less benefit you'll get out of the herpes antivirals too if you do indeed have herpes. I'm guessing you are not going to be seen this weekend by your regular doctor so I encourage you to find an acute care clinic to go to to get a visual diagnosis and proper treatment.

Worst case scenerio - you really do have genital herpes. Stop letting the IDEA of having herpes control you and further educate yourself on this pesky virus. It's far more common than you think and it's only a big deal if you let it be. Soceity has unfairly stigmatized herpes since it's sexually transmitted when it's genital and most folks are uneducated about it and therefore fear it needlessly :( Check out the info here on asha. Also there is a terrific patient counseling video and the herpes handbook over at www.westoverheights.com. You need to find out if you have hsv1 or hsv2 so if by the time you are seen by a medical provider the lesions are too far along to test - get a baseline type specific herpes igg blood test now and then repeat it in 3 months. That will help you try to figure out if you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally and will also help you figure out if it's a newly acquired infection for you or just your first obvious recurrence of a prior infection. Even though folks assume that if they are just now noticing symptoms that it must be a newly acquired infection - over half the time it isn't so the baseline testing is worthwhile.

So about this gal. Go talk to her about this instead of ignoring her. Tell her that you aren't accusing her by no means but that since you two have had sex together you have developed some lesions in the genital area that you are going to be seeking out medical help for. Tell her that you have no idea if it's a new infection or not or even what in the heck it is. Suggest that while you are working things up on your end to find out what is going on she should probably set up an appointment this week to get herself worked up too in case she has something and doesn't know it. She should get herself a type specific herpes igg blood test too to know her status and if it's negative she should consider repeating it in 3 months too. Like I said - don't be accusatory - just be straight forward and present the facts and go from there.

Your coping skills must be fairly limited if you are turning to drugs and alcohol even before you know that you have anything. do you always assume the worst and then turn to such negative behaviors? if so perhaps you should consider seeking out the advice of a professional and work on that. Trust me when I say that life is going to throw things a lot more complicated than std's at you!

betsy


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 Post subject: Re:
PostPosted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 9:01 pm 

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betsyb1967 wrote:
...how long have you had symptoms? The longer you wait the less likely you are to get an accurate diagnosis if indeed this is herpes going on. Also delaying treatments means the less benefit you'll get out of the herpes antivirals too if you do indeed have herpes. I'm guessing you are not going to be seen this weekend by your regular doctor so I encourage you to find an acute care clinic to go to to get a visual diagnosis and proper treatment.

....You need to find out if you have hsv1 or hsv2 so if by the time you are seen by a medical provider the lesions are too far along to test - get a baseline type specific herpes igg blood test now and then repeat it in 3 months. That will help you try to figure out if you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally and will also help you figure out if it's a newly acquired infection for you or just your first obvious recurrence of a prior infection...

So about this gal. Go talk to her about this instead of ignoring her. Tell her that you aren't accusing her by no means but that since you two have had sex together you have developed some lesions in the genital area that you are going to be seeking out medical help for. Tell her that you have no idea if it's a new infection or not or even what in the heck it is. Suggest that while you are working things up on your end to find out what is going on she should probably set up an appointment this week to get herself worked up too in case she has something and doesn't know it. She should get herself a type specific herpes igg blood test too to know her status and if it's negative she should consider repeating it in 3 months too. Like I said - don't be accusatory - just be straight forward and present the facts and go from there...


Great advice! And stay away from the drugs and alcohol they are a waste of time, an occasional few drinks is different. When I first got Herpes, it looked like a couple of red bumps on my genitals that were painful to the touch. Later they turned to blisters and all the classic symptoms. Unfortunately I have Herpes, but at least I don't have a life ending disease. Keep up your faith and you will work things out.

How is your supsected outbreak?


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