Please believe me sweetie when I say things will get better. I know it's hard to believe that but trust me it will. The doctor's viral culture will help . This could help determine the type of herpes you have whether it is Herpes Simplex 1 or 2. The reason I say this is because over 70% of the current population has Hepres Simplex 1. What you are describing sounds like a mild cases of Herpes. I was diagnosed myself this year but hadn't had sex since March 2005 ( my own decision ). Herpes can lay dormant for weeks, months and sometimes years before anything shows up. When my testing came back, it showed that I had Herpes Simplex 1 , which I knew that because I had fever blisters in the past but when it showed up in my genital tract, it was sort of a shock.HSV-1 can be transferred by oral sex. That I didn't know so I got educated as much as possible. That's what you are going to have to do. Here are websites:www.famvir.comwww.valtrex.comwww.westoverheights.com
These websites can get you started on coping with H and trust me you can have a normal sex life. I know that sounds strange but it's true. You may want to check with your doctor to see which type you have. HSV 2 prefers the genital tract but it loses some punch when on the mouth. This is vise versa for HSV 1. Also if it shows you have HSV-1 then that's pretty much to be expected. ALso knowing the type you have can help determine the severity of outbreaks. Most people with HSV 1 may have outbreaks and viral shedding less frequently than someone who may have HSV 2. There is a small percentage of those with HSV 1 who will have frequent outbreaks. ALso the first year is the toughest with outbreaks because your immune system needs to build up "fighters" to help control and suppress the virus. Of course don't have sex if an outbreak is present or if you think you are going to have an outbreak. But other times should be fine. Usually as time progresses, outbreaks become less and less frequent and severe
SO please don't cry. When you first find out it's hard but herpes is a big nuisance to most who have it. I've met and known many people with H to enjoy life, sex and the whole nine yards.
So if you are ready to ask questions and get knowledeable about this virus, you have come to the right place. Ask away, vent, cry . It's time to rebuild yourself and your life. If your hubby has questions, just ask. We are all here to help you get through this.
Herpes is extremely common.As a matter of fact , there are roughly 8 types of herpes viruses. So, at any point in life one can be exposed.
Herpes 1 - Cold Sores
Herpes 2 - Genital Herpes
Herpes 3 - Shingles, Chicken Pox
Herpes 4 - Mono, "Kissing Pox"
So you see you are not alone and again ask anything you like, vent. We are all here to help you make it through and it will get better