Your doctor is not following proper treatment protocol if he's visually diagnosed you as having herpes and didn't immediately prescribe medication. Waiting for laboratory confirmation of herpes is not in his patients best interest and can actually be interpreted as malpractice. Proper protocol is to treat all suspected cases of genital herpes - the longer you wait to start antivirals - the longer it will take to heal and the less helpful they are. He is not doing his patients much good if this is his standard of practice. ( this comes directly from the CDC's std treatment guidelines if you need something to back you when you call - http://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment/2-2002TG.htm-
Health-care providers often must treat patients before test results are available because early treatment decreases the possibility of ongoing transmission and because successful treatment of genital herpes depends upon prompt initiation of therapy. In this circumstance, the clinician should treat for the diagnosis considered most likely on the basis of clinical presentation and epidemiologic circumstances. Sometimes treatment must be initiated for additional conditions because of diagnostic uncertainty. Even after complete diagnostic evaluation, at least 25% of patients who have genital ulcers have no laboratory-confirmed diagnosis. ) I would call today first thing and put up a BIG fuss about this! You need either acyclovir 400mg 3x/day for 10 days, valtrex 1gm 2x/day for 10 days or famvir 250mg 3x/day for 10 days since this is presumed to be your first ob.
Go pick yourself up a box of aveeno bath packets and a can of dermoplast spray too ( the blue can, not the red can for the genital area ). You can soak in the tubby with a packet of aveeno bath thrown in for comfort and use the dermoplast to spray on for comfort throughout the day. Both will help you feel a little better. Also if your symptoms are around your anus - you can use tucks pads there. Just hold one in between your butt cheeks for about 10 minutes several times throughout the day to help with pain and to help dry out the lesions. Also in addition to your advil - unless you have a medical reason not to you can alternate advil with tylenol - ie 1000mg tylenol at 6am, 600mg advil at 9am, tylenol at noon, advil at 3pm etc. Just don't take more than 4000mg of tylenol a day ( for your liver's sake! ).
Your husband is going to need to get himself a type specific herpes test for hsv1 and hsv2. It's pretty likely that he was the source of the infection from what you've described but might as well cover all your bases and confirm who has what. I don't agree that it's pointless for him to get tested - I think it's important that he does get tested so that he knows what he has and doesn't try to convince himself that he couldn't possibly have it . You could've picked up hsv2 from "messing around" before you met him but it's more likely that he has it from what you've posted. I'm guessing the doc didn't do a blood test on you along with the lesion culture?
Your 9 year old is at no risk whatsoever!!! Everyone should have their own towel, washcloth, toothbrush and razor in a household for reasons far beyond herpes - other germs are very easily transmitted thru sharing them so it's always best not to. Herpes is transmitted thru direct skin on skin contact. It's also very easily killed with soap and water. You all can still use the same bar of soap and share the same toilet without worry. It's easily killed in the laundry too so you can still wash everyone's clothes together and such. If he picks up the wrong towel it's ok - it's still very, very, VERY unlikely to be transmitted that way.
You don't need to wear gloves either for yourself unless you know it's the only way you'll relax about it. The skin on your hands is too thick for the virus to easily penetrate.
I encourage you to take the time to read the herpes handbook and to watch the patient counseling video at www.westoverheights.com
. Both are filled with terrific info on herpes. It'll answer most of the questions you have right now.
Hang in there - even a "mild" herpes ob hurts!! ( and shame on your doc for even trying to discount the pain you are having!! ) Having them in the area you have them in doesn't make it any easier
Now go call your doc and give him a piece of your mind and get antivirals to help speed healing!!!