It annoys me also that herpes isn't included in the test me for anything I can catch -phrase... Leaving the gyn's with a clean bill of health is very comforting, ESPECIALLy after asking to be tested for everything including AIDS. I agree that is total B.S.
Also, in reference to your looking for a new man: I also am on match and have concluded that I am worth it. Anyone who rejects me is not worth my time. I've also learned that the ones that I thought were going to be ok with herpes WERE NOT (church goer, honest, kind, perfect but a total chicken about learning what Herpes is..common) AND that the ones that I thought were going to be penis's about it..both ex-boyfriends were awesome about it. In fact I told them to make them stop calling me cause I was disgusted with myself --they reassured me that I'm awesome and have other redeaming qualities that really matter.
After all that, I learned that it makes sense that the people who have known me don't really care about H because they know I am a great person.
Focus on your postive qualities that make you who you are.