Glad you made it back home safe and sound
You had your lesion culture typed so no reason for a blood test unless you just want to know your hsv1 status too.
So why don't they test routinely for hsv? Well preaching to the choir on that one here as I'm sure you know. CDC recommends testing for hiv which only 1 out of 100 adults has but not herpes which 1 out of 2 has hsv1 and 1 out of 4 has hsv2. Having hsv2 increases your risk for hiv too so you'd think that they'd start recommending routine screening for it but they haven't. Medicine still has a long way to go in its thinking when it comes to diagnosing herpes. Yes it is a nuisance virus more than anything for the vast majority of people who have it but it can be controlled and you can reduce transmission if you know you have it. Pregnant women especially should be aware of their status too.
I'm glad your friend and you have confided in each other and can lean on each other
I've had several coworkers come to me over the years to talk and it's really helped them to have someone they can talk to without fear of what they will think of them. I'm sorry she got such poor treatment in the ER, I rarely recommend going to the ER for std/gyn issues. Depending on the ER, you might get a trauma surgeon looking at your nether regions. To me, asking them to do gyn care on me is like asking my gyn to do my brain surgery. just makes no sense. broken bones, perfect place to go but for a possible std, it's worth waiting until the morning to get in with your regular doctor or a std clinic. Most practitioners handle their patients with herpes much better so tell her not to think that's the way she'll always be treated.
Have you considered the herpes dating sites? depending on your area depends on how many folks have signed up but it is a nice way to meet others with herpes and get used to talking about it when dating. I used to post on both herpes sites and regular dating sites online when I was dating. Hard enough to find someone you have things in common with so I didn't like to narrow my choices any more than they already were....lol. Was harder to find a man who liked big dogs and didn't think that vegetarian was an exotic contagious disease than it was to find a man who had no issues with my having herpes believe it or not!