condoms only reduce transmission of hsv2 by about 30% on average. they aren't fool proof which is why we always recommend periodic testing even if you always use condoms. What testing did you have done to diagnose you as having hsv2?
I assume your current partner has had proper testing too and not just assumed negative?
1. How often do I shed the virus while on Valtrex? Is it 15 out of 100 days?
- far less with daily suppressive therapy. suppressive therapy reduces ob's by about 70% on average and shedding by 80-90% on average.
2. Do I shed, even when I don't get the tingly, itchy feeling?
- yes you are having times of viral shedding even without any obvious symptoms. It won't happen very often on suppressive therapy but it can and probably does still happen.
3. Is it possible to self-swab for the virus, and get a lab to test for frequency of shedding? My doctor has been helpful but is such a service even available?
- yes this can be done however it will cost you quite a bit of money to do daily swabbing as well as the results are meaningless in the big picture overall. Why? Because that's shedding for just those particular days and times, you might not shed a lot the month or two you would do swabbing but that isn't to say that say 6 months down the road you'll catch the flu and maybe shed more because your body is run down.
you taking daily suppressive therapy , avoiding sex during obvious genital symptoms and using condoms makes a female partner's risk on average 2-3%/year. Stop using condoms and it is on average 4-5%/year risk of transmission. Do you have to take full precautions just because you have hsv2? Actually no you do not - it's totally up to you and your partner what precautions to take. Many couples don't do anything other than avoid sex during obvious symptoms, it's their choice and overall, your female partner is still 90% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you.
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betsy