Be sure to read the anchored post "now I am gun shy" at the top of this forum - it has terrific suggestions in it for how to talk about your herpes with someone. Also the info on asha's regular site and the herpes handbook ( www.westoverheights.com
) both offer terrific suggestions too.
Encourage your new partner to get himself a type specific herpes igg blood test along with other std testing too before you two are intimate. Why take the blame for giving him herpes if he had it all along and never knew it?
It's never easy and it's not a darn bit romantic to talk about your herpes infection with a new partner but if we were all doing it instead of rushing right into bed with someone - there'd be a heck of a lot less posts here on this board. I'm just very open and matter of fact about it all when I talk about it and I also talk about condoms and birth control too. All are important things to talk about. Also talk about what you are willing to do to lower his risk if he's hsv2 negative - condoms and daily suppressive therapy will make him very unlikely to contract hsv2 from you.