pamme" I was wondering if someone could tell me what to do because my husband has throat cancer and does not smoke and they think it is HPV related, he has been faithful and me too, he was married before and I am not sure if I have the virus and I have plans to get checked by doctor but is there anyone out there that has had to deal with this as I need to speak to someone that understands all this and can give me some ways that I can talk to my doctor and what kind of tests I should get and what I should be looking for, my throat has been sore and I keep thinking I may have HPV in my throat and I don't know what to do to boost my immune system to fight this. I don't want to get cancer like my husband does and I want to figure out what I can do to protect myself from getting the virus or it may be too late but how can I keep from it turning to cancer.?? Anyone who has been in this situation or has advice?? God Bless/In Christ Pam quote="hula wrote:
I have read so many posts and people questioning whether it is safe to assume that , the more time that goes by, the less chance of, maybe, having a recurrence, or maybe, infecting a partner. Well I have to tell my story. IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll try to keep it short.
Was infected when I was 17yrs old, I am now 35, with 2 children (5 & 3 yrs). When I first found out I was infected, the doctor treated them and within a month there was no sign of any warts. I kept going to him for follow-ups, every 3 months, then every 6 months, and so on, until one day (about 3 yrs later) he told me to stop worrying about it, he said that (theyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve) found that for people who do not have an occurance in this amount of time (3 yrs) , it is highly unlikely that it will come back. So I asked him should I ever tell anyone about it and he said Ã¢â‚¬Å“no, itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s not significant enough for you to be so stressed about.Ã¢â‚¬Â He also, said something about my immunity being built up to it and not to worry.
Just to make it clear, he was a very good doctor, not flaky but very confident in his approach and clear in his instruction and advice.
I should also mention that over the past 17 years, I have not been the permiscuous type, but I have had several long term relationships (5yr, and a couple of 3yr). But I also have passed over many opportunities because of HPV. It really sucks how this can Ã¢â‚¬Å“run your lifeÃ¢â‚¬Â.
Anyway, 17 years later and IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve been married now for 31/2 years. Everything going great and nearly forgot that I ever had HPV until I noticed a spot on my husband (on our honeymoon no less). My husband has not had very many partners at all. Two maybe 3 and he had a long Ã¢â‚¬Å“dryÃ¢â‚¬Â spell just before me. So, I am convinced that my HPV has become active 17 years later. However, there are no visible warts present on me, only my husband. I am going for a coloscopy soon and maybe that will tell me more. I have always had regular pap smears and sometimes I have 2 per year. All of them normal. I am also convinced that, if my HPV has returned, it is because of my last pregnancy. I had a very healthy, normal pregnancy but gained a lot of weight. The baby pressed hard on my pelvis for the last 2 months of the pregnancy. Also, after giving birth, I had so many physical ailments, really, too many complaints to list here. The point is, I felt so physically drained from it all that I think my immunity dropped and the HPV Ã¢â‚¬Å“reared itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s ugly head againÃ¢â‚¬Â. I am no doctor but I do know my own body.
Regardless of how, when or why, IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve gone back to feeling the same way I felt 17 years ago. (You know those feelings...shame, guilt...etc, etc) My marriage is suffering because of it. I find myself Ã¢â‚¬Å“looking for a way out so that I do not have to deal with the pressure of Ã¢â‚¬Å“having to have sexÃ¢â‚¬Â. We hardly have sex anymore anyway. Also, I am worried because we did have sex orally before this happened and IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m worried about the implications of that. IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m afraid to ask my Doctor to look at my throat because IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m afraid of what he will find. A lot of times I think I would like to separate from my husband so that I would not have to even think about it anymore. I would just deal with it on my own.
Note: I have remained friends with everyone (the 3 relationships I mentioned) who IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve been with over the years and I know that they have never got Ã¢â‚¬ËœitÃ¢â‚¬â„¢. I never did tell any of them and I donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t regret not having told them. I also donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t regret not telling my husband before we got married. That doctor was right and itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s not significant enough to tell every person you might have a relationship with.
I have a lot more I can say and tell
Ciao for now