Melissa, this is a very stressful situation for us all. Please keep in mind that I am new to this all as well, but I will tell you this much. My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, we had a break up period and I went out with another girl and pulled a one nighter. I ended up getting genital warts. It was about 10-12 months later before my first wart appeared. My dermatologist told me that he doesn't even collect a sexual history anymore, becuse of the fact the warts go dormant, treated and don't show up, basically its just so hard to track that because some people are just carriers w/o symptoms. So your boyfriend needs to understand that you don't have to cheat for this to appear out of nowhere. There are others on this forum who have a wart appear after quite some time. Eventhough, this doesn't seem to be the norm.
As a means of hope I will also tell you this. I don't usually talk about this becuase i'm a pretty modest guy. I have boxed since age 12, i'm 22 now. My grandfather was in the navy and trained me. I have won silver gloves, lost late in the golden gloves tournament, lost late in ringside tournament(one of the biggest tournaments in the U.S.), and my fight record is 36-2. One fighter I lost to had a 61-10 and went to the junior olympics, the other had a record of 16-3. I went at age 20 to start Mixed Martial Arts, I have a record of 3-0 and have taken time off from fights to pursue further training in grappling/wresting while I was in nursing school. I graduated nursing school in May, just got hired as an RN in the Emergency Department at the top hospital in Lexington, KY. I haven't told anyone that information on here, because its a very big misconception that nurses know a great deal about stds. The truth is, when it comes to STD's, Genital Warts is a six paragraph section in our nursing book and basically says what it looks like, and the common treatments and thats it. Nothing else. So anyone reading this, I am pretty ignorant when it comes to STD's, but I have done a lot of research recently. Ask me about Cardiac, Respiratory, and i'll eat you up. My point is this Melissa, true atheletes overcome adversity and don't make excuses. In no way, has having HPV affected my ability to be an elite athlete. The truth is this, in boxing and mma, I have nobody to carry me like a basketball player can rely on his team. You bust your butt and give it all you got. Hard work pays off. A true athelete understands that. I'm sure your boyfriend is just stressed out right now, this is a huge burden for us all.
On another note, genital warts has actually brought my girlfriend and I closer together. We fought a lot at first, but a lot of other stuff was going on and this happened on top of it. What it has shown us is that we love each other and don't want anyone else. And we can work through problems in a mature way. I was honest with her about my whole situation and she cried a lot at first. The truth is, I didn't know what I had until I almost lost it. I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. Not if she had to have chemo and lost all of her hair or if had a limb amputated due to trauma. I would think she is just as beautiful as I do now. I guess what im trying to get to is this. If your boyfriend really loves your/cares about you, this is when he has his shot to show it. My girlfriend asked if she had been exposed to the dermatologist the day I was diagnosed. He said he would say almost 100% yes. So given that, he most likely has been exposed. Like I said, if this guy is really serious about being with you he needs to understand the fact that you only having one wart and not a huge outbreak is probably a good sign. My dermatologist told me that and I had several. This really is a matter of a trip to the doctor here and there, but not worth stepping on someone you care about. You need to remember that the next time you two talk. The fact of the matter is, he runs the same risk sleeping with any other girl. Your not an alien and even after me getting genital warts. If I met a girl right now and I didn't have it and we were together for quite a while and knew we were really serious and got married, I probably wouldn't let it stop me from being with who I want to be with. This is a huge burden for me. I have OCD and the though of HPV DNA on inanimate objects in the house is about to kill me and i'm working on it. It helps when people on here reassure me. I wish you all the best and would encourage you to not get too down on yourself. I would also suggest using diversion techniques, reading a book, watching a movie, going for a walk, going out with the friends, whatever you need to do to take care of you. Good luck. -Colt1911