I'm going to address both of your posts here so we just have one post going. just easier to keep it all in 1 post.
it's totally up to you how you want to treat your herpes. If you aren't in a relationship, just treating ob's as you have them is a good option, especially if you aren't having them often to be overly bothered by them.
when you were diagnosed, what testing did you have done? do you know if you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally?
when you are ready for a new relationship, keep in mind that you are not contagious 24/7/365 by no means! If you take daily suppressive therapy with valtrex, use condoms for sex and avoid sex anytime you have anything going on genitally, your partner is 99% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. that's the same odds of getting pregnant each year with ideal use of the pill.
As for myself, I've only ever had 2 fellows decide that my herpes was too much for them. all the rest were fine with it. it's not really been a big issue for me. Most of my friends with herpes have had similar success though honestly most of them haven't even been turned down that often because of their herpes. When you have your "talk" with a new partner, remember this is not a confession, it's a discussion and it's far more than just your genital herpes - it's about std's in general. Their status is just as important as yours and in fact you can argue even more important because you having herpes makes you more vulnerable to std infection in general, especially hiv. It's so much more than just you knowing you have herpes! Also it's ok to say that you trust that they realize this is private information you are giving them and you trust that they'll respect your privacy as you plan on respecting theirs.
Sorry to hear that your current relationship isn't working out
It's hard to deal with a break up no matter what the cause and when a partner is playing games like yours seems to be, makes it even harder.