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It's not an issue when you both have hsv2. Just don't perform oral on active lesions to err on the side of caution. You can even have sex when you have recurrences if it's not painful. You won't "ping pong" herpes back and forth and you won't get it "worse" or anything like that. It's really a non-issue when you both have it other than the inconvenience of recurrences.
your partner's hsv1 isn't an issue either. hsv2 protects you from hsv1 quite a bit, just not the other way around.
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