I was diagnosed with hsv 2 about 2 months ago. I am 31 and feel like my life has been permanently damaged. My ex boyfriend had it and apparently had no idea how you could give it to someone. I was dumb/naive and didn't press for answers. I left him (emotionally abusive) and about a month later found out I had contracted herpes from him. My GYN did a blood test (negative) and a culture (positive). This was THE WORST news I have ever had in my life. My ex and I never had sex or oral sex. We shared towels and he did digitally penetrate me (used his saliva) once. I did not have this before I met him and have only slept with 3 guys previous to this(all long term, serious relationships)--all are negative for hsv. There is no doubt in my mind I contracted it from him. He completely denied it and gave me an earful of all kinds of rude and obscene language and accusations.
I have had three outbreaks since my initial outbreak. The first outbreak was HORRIBLE. I had nerve pain all over, my skin on my legs was extremely sensitive to the touch, I became swollen almost everywhere. My face would swell in the morning and my right leg, foot and ankle were swollen as well. I was in general pain and took tylenol ex twice a day. I was also VERY tired and have no energy at all when I have an outbreak. I took valcyclovir my first ob and was given scripts for any other obs I may have. I am currently experiencing an ob at the moment and it seems to almost rank up there as my first one in severity. The others were hardly noticeable. I just got over a very severe cold and think that my lowered immune system may have caused it. I also seem to get minor obs when I get my period.
Now, I am dating a really wonderful guy. It is still too early to tell if it will last but I know he wants to make it a long term thing and so do I. The problem is I have not told him about my hsv, and am terrified to do so. I am going to ask some very basic and specific questions. Hopefully I will get some answers. I know they have been asked before, but I guess I want the answers all in one place. I am telling the guy I am dating tomorrow night. His parents are visiting from out of town soon and he wants me to meet him. I want him to know about my hsv beforehand so he can decide BEFORE I meet his parents whether or not he would like to stay with me. I may be on here for some major moral support. I have only told my parents (very supportive) and best friend (very supportive) about my hsv, but any support I can get would be wonderful.
Is there anything natural I can take to relieve pain or prevent outbreaks?
Would having a cold lower my immune system and cause an ob?
Will I get an ob everytime I have my period? Will suppressive therapy stop this?
As far as I know he is clean. If I am not having an ob can he still get it?
What are the best meds to take if I want to do suppressive therapy?
I have no side effects from the valcyclovir, would I react the same to the other drugs? Are they composed of the same chemicals/ingredients?
Shedding, how do I prevent it?
What kinds of things can I tell him so that I can ease his trepidations?
We are not sexually active at the moment, kissing can't transmit it, right?
Can he ever perform oral sex on me?
Can you give me any other information that would be good to tell him? I asked him to come over tomorrow night so I can tell him. His entire family is from NY and his sister and cousin visited and I met them. They loved me and I don't want him to have to explain to his parents what happened if he decides he no longer wants to see me.
I know there are a lot of questions, but hopefully my questions will help someone else out as well as myself.