I was just reading your bad experience about a support group. I can relate to you, a lot of power of abuse goes on those support groups because the facilitators who run these group often take advantage of us because we are putting ourselves in a very vulnerable situation going into a group of people you don't even know. There are many reasons why these unhealthy dinamics happen. Possibly, the people in the group have formed a click which is not good because it can make newcomers feel unwelcome. Also, depending on who the facilitator is, you are leaving yourself wide open to abuse of power with some of them. My suggestion, before you join a group, try to get to know the facilitator before you begin. Try to form a blog online in order to get feedback from others with similar experience. Then you can take action of abuse of power in a support group. I don't know which level of government you need to go to but it will be very empowering for you to do a lot of research and what the amendments for abuse of power in America is all about. Here in Canada, we have the Charter of Rights and Freedom where noone is allowed to discriminate. Also, we have the Constitution like our Amendments in the United States. Lets get our power back instead of leaving it up to any organization who are trying to take away our rights. Often, after you speak with a facilitator or a clinic, you will see the "ques" based on their concern and support toward you. Any "Red Lights", may a note of time and date. This will be a beginning of taking action.
I have had a similar experience in the only support group here in Toronto. It is called the Phoenix Association. The guy who facilitates it makes you feel he only wants your money and doesn't give a dam about me. I tried calling him and asking if there are any therapist in Toronto who counsels people with HSV. He said he is the only one in Toronto who is a therapist for HSV and charges $25 per hour. Right up front, he is thinking money instead of him helping me find someone else. Then I ran into a member of the group and she said there are more than one therapist who deals with this problem in Toronto. She gave me the name of Hassle Free clinic in Toronto. I sometimes go there and there are several councellors there to help people like us. And it is free.
What a money rakid for vulnerable people like us. My suggestion is to look for someone who is worth the time and money involved. It is too much of a price to pay for someone abusing their power and expertise. when I went into the support group, all he was thinking of is that I should join and it will cost $35 a year. Money again. Uum. I like to know which group you had this problem at. I am starting up a blog discussion forum with others who are experiencing the same thing so I can form a petition to the government of this ongoing problem.
Betsy, see what I mean, remember I told you I had a problem with this facilitator and I never got a response from you. What is going on with ASHA. Do you all know the same people in support groups that are abusing these power? I need to know more info on how asha is in contact with these facilitators in herpes support groups across Canada and the United States.
Oh J, if you need to talk to me, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org