If you've never read the herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com
- I recommend taking the time to do so. It will give you terrific info for how to treat your herpes as well as how to reduce a partner's risk.
Unfortunately condoms do not protect 100% against the transmission of genital herpes. Your past partner should still get tested for herpes to know his full status because he very well could've contracted the virus while he was with you and he just doesn't know it. Sure he's far more likely not to have contracted it than he is to have contracted it but it's best to err on the side of caution and get tested before he enters into any future relationships. Trust me when I say it's far better to find out you have it from a blood test then from when you've transmitted it to a new partner
Even though your lesions typically appear outside of the actual genitals - you are still most likely shedding the virus from the entire anogenital area with ob's and in between ob's. Your nerve ganglia for that entire area is infected with the virus - not just the area in which up until now you typically have noticed ob's in. So yes all the info you've read before does pertain to you too.