I have read so many posts and people questioning whether it is safe to assume that , the more time that goes by, the less chance of, maybe, having a recurrence, or maybe, infecting a partner. Well I have to tell my story. IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll try to keep it short.
Was infected when I was 17yrs old, I am now 35, with 2 children (5 & 3 yrs). When I first found out I was infected, the doctor treated them and within a month there was no sign of any warts. I kept going to him for follow-ups, every 3 months, then every 6 months, and so on, until one day (about 3 yrs later) he told me to stop worrying about it, he said that (theyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve) found that for people who do not have an occurance in this amount of time (3 yrs) , it is highly unlikely that it will come back. So I asked him should I ever tell anyone about it and he said Ã¢â‚¬Å“no, itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s not significant enough for you to be so stressed about.Ã¢â‚¬Â He also, said something about my immunity being built up to it and not to worry.
Just to make it clear, he was a very good doctor, not flaky but very confident in his approach and clear in his instruction and advice.
I should also mention that over the past 17 years, I have not been the permiscuous type, but I have had several long term relationships (5yr, and a couple of 3yr). But I also have passed over many opportunities because of HPV. It really sucks how this can Ã¢â‚¬Å“run your lifeÃ¢â‚¬Â.
Anyway, 17 years later and IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve been married now for 31/2 years. Everything going great and nearly forgot that I ever had HPV until I noticed a spot on my husband (on our honeymoon no less). My husband has not had very many partners at all. Two maybe 3 and he had a long Ã¢â‚¬Å“dryÃ¢â‚¬Â spell just before me. So, I am convinced that my HPV has become active 17 years later. However, there are no visible warts present on me, only my husband. I am going for a coloscopy soon and maybe that will tell me more. I have always had regular pap smears and sometimes I have 2 per year. All of them normal. I am also convinced that, if my HPV has returned, it is because of my last pregnancy. I had a very healthy, normal pregnancy but gained a lot of weight. The baby pressed hard on my pelvis for the last 2 months of the pregnancy. Also, after giving birth, I had so many physical ailments, really, too many complaints to list here. The point is, I felt so physically drained from it all that I think my immunity dropped and the HPV Ã¢â‚¬Å“reared itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s ugly head againÃ¢â‚¬Â. I am no doctor but I do know my own body.
Regardless of how, when or why, IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve gone back to feeling the same way I felt 17 years ago. (You know those feelings...shame, guilt...etc, etc) My marriage is suffering because of it. I find myself Ã¢â‚¬Å“looking for a way out so that I do not have to deal with the pressure of Ã¢â‚¬Å“having to have sexÃ¢â‚¬Â. We hardly have sex anymore anyway. Also, I am worried because we did have sex orally before this happened and IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m worried about the implications of that. IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m afraid to ask my Doctor to look at my throat because IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m afraid of what he will find. A lot of times I think I would like to separate from my husband so that I would not have to even think about it anymore. I would just deal with it on my own.
Note: I have remained friends with everyone (the 3 relationships I mentioned) who IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ve been with over the years and I know that they have never got Ã¢â‚¬ËœitÃ¢â‚¬â„¢. I never did tell any of them and I donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t regret not having told them. I also donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t regret not telling my husband before we got married. That doctor was right and itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s not significant enough to tell every person you might have a relationship with.
I have a lot more I can say and tell
Ciao for now